For most of our lives we have been handed a very specific definition of success. Work hard, follow the formula, fit yourself into the system, and eventually the system will reward you. Climb the right ladder, build the right resume, and say the right things in the right rooms, and one day you will arrive at the life you were promised if you just kept doing what you were told. And so many of us did exactly that. We followed the blueprint, showed up the way we were supposed to